Some people have that fantasy of dating an older man. You may think about the security they would provide but physically and monetarily. But not all 40 year old men are created equal. Some are single at 40 for a reason. This Storyblender shared this story to our Storyblend Facebook Group about a date that is actually shocking. If I was in her shoes, I would have left within the first 5 minutes.
“So at the time I was 27 and this guy was 40. I had a brain fart in my thought process and thought older men might be more mature and stable. Boy was that fantasy of mine going to crash and burn.
I had already gone on one date with this guy. I wasn’t too sure about him. He seemed just a little ‘off.’ But he called me a week later and asked to meet for lunch. We lived about three hours away from each other and he said he would be coming into town.
He suggested to meet up at the mall, decide where we want to go, then head over from there. We met outside of Red Robin and he decided that he wanted to eat there. I told him, ‘hey cool. I actually had already eaten lunch, but I’ll just order a coke.’
We got seated and the place was packed. He glanced down at the menu card and does a mini freak out. He was gasping and put his hand up to his heart. He looks at me and says ‘this is BS. More than ten dollars for a BS hamburger!’ Then he tries to flag down a waitress ‘EXCUSE ME—WAITRESS? DO YOU HAVE ANY CHEAPER SPECIALS?!’ I wanted to sink into the booth, it was so embarrassing! Then he looks at me and says ‘sorry I don’t want to seem cheap, but I’m trying to save up for a car!’ I ask about the truck he was driving and he explains that it’s a work truck. He goes on to say that he has no money, no place to live, and no credit. And that’s not even what bothered me. What came next was his explanation and it was ridiculous.
‘Yeah I’m broke but it’s not my fault, my parents made it really hard on me. They kicked me out when I was 20.’
I stared at him in disbelief. Then, my lack of a filter kicked in. ‘Well, you’ve had 20 years to get over that!’
He starts muttering and getting angry and at this point the burger that he ordered came to the table. He begins eating and getting thousand island dressing all over his hands. Just for a visual, if anyone has seen Sponge Bob Squarepants, this guy was licking his hand like Patrick Star does. The only thing this guy is successful at is smearing the thousand island into his skin.
At this point he launches into a very detailed telling of how every one hates him. I wish I could better describe the voice he was using, I can only say it was whiny beyond belief.
He tells me ‘I called up my ex-girlfriend the other day – not to get with her but just to see how she was doing – and her boyfriend answered the phone. And her boyfriend said something likedon’t ever call here again. Then she got on the phone and said the same thing. Why do people talk to me like this?’ I mumbled something about sometimes people just don’t work out. And I kid you not, that’s when he looked at me, smirked, and said ‘I can’t wait to get you pregnant.’
I kid you not, I felt the food I had eaten a week prior getting ready to come up! He got up to go to the bathroom and I quickly gather my stuff. After he got back I thanked him for the Coke and told him that it would be better if we just remained friends and left.
I can’t use my phone during work so the ringer is generally off. When I got home later that day and checked there are 10 missed calls from him and two nasty messages in which he calls me a choice words, a tease and just a generally horrible person.
When I turned my phone back on, he was calling me again. So (this is my favorite part) I answer and in a calm tone I say ‘Hello?’ I hear ‘Hey Sabrina, I’m sorry, I…’
That’s where I cut him off and mimicking the tone he used earlier I said ‘Don’t ever call here again!‘”