“My ex boyfriend cheated on me with someone, so obviously we broke up. Since we were in different cities, I used to get his updates from mutual friends. One fine day he called me and started narrating that how his current girlfriend dominates him and I was the best he could ever get.
Frankly, I did become a little weak but since he was telling about his then girlfriend so I didn’t had an opportunity to go back. Call me stupid, but I was so madly in love with him, that I was ready to be back even after knowing that he cheated. His calls continued, but every time he was telling about his then girlfriends and the problems with them only. As a human being with a heart, I listened and always gave him a crying shoulder (yes, I go out of my way to help people and I don’t think that makes me spineless).
Fast forward few years, I got married to ‘the man’ and he made me realize what love actually is. The ex was in touch with me on and off, which ‘the man’ knew too. He use to call/message me when he was very low emotionally or terribly wrecked in a relationship (he had a couple of girlfriends, after we broke up).
One fine morning, I called him (the ex) up. He was little low as his then girlfriend refused to spend New Year’s Eve with him and chose to go to some destination with one of his male friends, or something like that. I remember my exact words, ‘Sheesh, thank you for cheating on me. Thank you for breaking my heart. If you wouldn’t have done all that, I would have never met my husband and wouldn’t have realized that what love is and that I deserve love, happiness and moreover the respect. Thank you for pushing me away.’ This was almost two years back and that was the last time we spoke. He never contacted me post this conversation.
So living well, and letting your ex know about it, is the best revenge.”
I Got The Money
“Yeah yeah let it go, be a better person, show them what they’re missing. These answers are of course all mature and correct but when you have a sense of injustice it’s really hard to do that. All you want is to get back some control. Here are the two rules of revenge.
Rule Number One-Patience
My advice is be patient. Yes don’t let it consume you. Don’t go crazy stalking them. Don’t waste energy on them. But be patient and know that one day the opportunity will come.
Rule Two-Load the weapon, don’t pull the trigger
I have taken revenge three times in my life. I’m pretty easygoing, focus on the bigger picture etc but sometimes you need to take revenge. VERY IMPORTANT- the best revenge is when it absolutely can not be traced back to you. The other person has to believe that they’re just having a bad day/week/month. This means no keying their car, calling their work or all the other impassioned things you want to do. Create a situation and let them pull the trigger.
Do I sound like a psycho yet?
My ex-husband got deported for not having the correct visa in Canada. Relationship broke down, he cost me a lot of money, lied to me, didn’t work, etc. Anyway, divorce happened and he continued with the same old pathological lies that he was a changed man, he would send money for the divorce just let him know,etc. Three weeks after I asked for a divorce, he was in an online relationship with another woman. Strike one.
I gave him months to get together $300. I was going to fill out all 11 forms necessary for the divorce. I had done my research to save us both money so we didn’t have to use a lawyer. All he had to do was send money and accept the papers being served on him.
He blocked me. Didn’t send money. I had to beg and plead with him through his mum to just let someone give him some papers and that was it. It took a lot of tenacity and anxiety. Strike two. I had enough. Couldn’t waste anymore time on him and paid for it all myself and got the divorce but didn’t tell him. Now I just waited.
I kept an eye on his girlfriend’s Instagram. Nothing much happening apart from a few jewelry gifts from him here and there. I knew it wouldn’t be long. Then bingo. I found out they were engaged. I should be happy for him but wait, as far as he knew, we were still married. And his social media status was public. And he thought he had blocked me. Oh sorry? You didn’t know he was still married? New fiancée and friends.
I understand this goes against rule number two and I sound more psycho than I actually am but it worked!! Five days later I received the money for the whole divorce. Three days after that I sent the divorce order and told him we’d been divorced for over a month.
Revenge was served. It probably didn’t affect him too much but I got the control back and that’s what revenge is about.”
He Couldn’t Let It Go
“There was a really beautiful, popular girl my friend, ‘Rohan,’ had a serious crush on. He asked her out several times but she was always ‘busy’. She never really discouraged him though, I think she liked the attention.
One day Rohan got ahold of two tickets to a sold-out movie. He bought them from a friend who had to go out of town for an emergency. Rohan immediately called the girl of his dreams and of course, she accepted. He was thrilled and everything seemed fine.
The night of the show they’re at the theater waiting for the show to begin and she suddenly says, ‘Oh, I see my friend, I’ll be right back!’
You guessed it, she never returned. Rohan stayed at the seats since that’s the only place she would logically look for him. When the show ended, Rohan ever the gentleman, waited for a long time so he could drive her home. But saw no sign of her. She didn’t answer her phone or texts. So he left feeling so hurt.
By the next morning, he was rightfully angry! She called him around noon apologizing and saying she ran into her ex they had a long talk and worked out a lot of stuff and lost track of time. She had actually missed the movie and blah, blah, blah.
He accepted her apology and asked if they could try again. She accepted and told him how very nice and forgiving he was. She had underestimated him! So the next Saturday evening he took her to a very expensive restaurant. He was polite and chatty the whole way up there. He made the reservation in her name.
They were seated, ordered food, ate, and then Mike excused himself to go to the men’s room. He very deliberately said, ‘I’ll be right back.’
He walked out to the parking lot and drove away. And became the hero of every good guy who’s been treated like garbage by a girl because she just didn’t give a hoot about his feelings.”
You Have To Love Again
“I dated a girl in college who I thought I might marry. She felt the same though we never planned it.
Then one evening my world exploded. After having a few too many drinks with a friend, he confessed he’d had an affair with her while I was gone to boot camp.
‘Are you freaking kidding me?’ I screamed.
‘Sorry, just wanted you to know,’ he called as he ran out the door ducking for cover.
I flipped out and started throwing bottles. I understood for the first time how a person wigs out and beats up someone else. Instead, thankfully, I just took off. Roamed for a few days. Gave myself time to calm down and get rational. Marriage never exactly entered our conversation again. We’d still see each other occasionally but never anything serious. I simply never trusted her. Interestingly she and my friend never saw each other again.
In my senior year, I met a beautiful young woman who was just as beautiful on the inside. I hadn’t trusted anyone with love since that night. Too many wounds. But this young woman was different. I somehow knew. And for 45 years she has proven it over and over. My wife and I happened to see the other woman years ago. She’d never married. Perhaps revenge was her seeing what might have been. Though honestly, I didn’t care anymore. And I’m thankful every day I found the one I married.
The best revenge for a broken heart is to love again and forget about revenge.”
Just Say Goodbye
“After being hurt and ignored by this guy I thought I couldn’t live without I realized I had to do something about my dang self since I could do nothing about him.
The last time he failed to show up for our date I didn’t call and whine, I didn’t get inebriated and tell everyone what he did. I did nothing. At all. He called me later that night but I didn’t pick up. He texted me and I didn’t reply. The next day he started early calling and leaving messages and it was very hard but I didn’t respond so he comes over and knocks on my door and I opened the door with a smile.
I said ‘Hey what’s up?’ He went into his spiel about him being worried about me. I said ‘Why are you worried about me?’ He started to explain but I stopped him. ‘Look’ I said ‘No big deal, I’m actually kinda busy right now and don’t have time but you can call me later.’
He wanted to know what I was doing that was more important than listening to him lie to me again so I told him I’m watching TV and I really have to go. Goodbye. He was all cocked and primed to come over and force-feed me an excuse for effing me over but I wasn’t listening to any more of his nonsense I was sick and tired of him and instead of punching him in his mouth (I call his mouth a lie hole).
I smiled and said goodbye. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do but it was rewarding to know he had told me his last lie. Being toyed with is infuriating but being indifferent to someone who’s toying with your emotions feels so good. I must stress, no arguing about it, no whining, no animosity just indifference. It’s not easy but it kills them inside to take their toy away from them while you appear unfazed. Good luck you’re in a situation that emotions can get out of control.”
I’m In His Head
“He was from a middle-class family. When he was in college he fell in love with a girl. Both were going steady. They finished their studies and he was thinking of doing his post-graduation.
Meanwhile, the girl’s parents found her a rich well-settled boy who was earning very well. Without a second thought, she dumped him and got married to the boy chosen by her parents.
He was shattered and attempted suicide but was saved in the nick of time by his family. Knowing his state of mind they asked him to apply for post-graduation in America. He did his post-graduation there and immediately got a job there.
Today he is earning very well, married, and moved on in life. He regularly posts his pictures with his pretty wife on social media.
A few years ago he was blessed with a beautiful baby girl. And guess what? He gave his beautiful baby girl the name of his ex-girlfriend. He posted the photo of his wife and daughter and wrote the name of my daughter is dedicated to the person without whom I would never have got these two beautiful ladies in my life.
So the best revenge is ceasing to care for the person who dumped you and moving ahead in life. After all, nobody is indispensable in this world.
If someone breaks your heart, focus on your career. Go on solo holidays and trips or with friends and family. Enjoy your life. Live for the people who truly love you like your parents. Don’t waste your time pining for someone who was not meant to be in your life. Eventually, you will find someone better than the person who broke your heart.”
Sometimes It’s Best Not To Care
“Years ago, back in Christmas of 2008, I started dating a girl. Long story short she basically met another guy, she had told me she wasn’t at all attracted to him so I didn’t expect anything to happen. I live in Arizona and she was still in high school at the time (Junior year) while I was a freshman at University. I did my studies in Tucson (University of Arizona) for my freshmen year, but then later transferred to ASU as a sophomore so I could be closer to friends and family.
Anyway prior to me moving to ASU, we had been ‘broken up’ by her parents for some, well some very silly reasons that I personally feel only an extremist would do, but, that’s besides the point. As I’m on my side of town doing my college thing, here she is doing her thing on her side of town still being a senior in high school.
Now I’m just going to say right here that I have NEVER been the kind of guy to tell a girl who she can and can’t be friends with. I had no problem whatsoever with this new guy she met. And, to be fair, as they were spending more time together, she started opening up and she upfront told me that she thinks she likes him.
So at this point I’m thinking, ‘Ok…she likes a new guy. That’s completely fine. We’re not officially together. If she has feelings for another guy who am I to say she’s being a bad person or whatever?’
Honestly, maybe this was a bit naive of me, but I figured given all our history and what not that she would have chosen me in the end. Sadly I was wrong.
So get this. Me and this girl that I was seeing at the time made plans to meet up since, you know, we were still in love with each other and all that jazz. We literally made plans like at least two months in advance. And guess what happens? I remember it so vividly. I’m sitting in my Psychology 101 class, and out of nowhere, ‘Susan’ I guess we’ll call her, texted me and said, ‘Justin asked me out.’
I responded, ‘Um okay? Did you like say yes or something?’
She replied, ‘Yeah. I did.’
Well. That’s definitely the BEST thing I’ve ever heard in my life. NOT. Literally, TWO DAYS before she was supposed to come out and visit me after making plans for two months prior she goes off and makes this guy her boyfriend. And what’s even worse… is that I acted and pretended like everything was okay at first. She still came over to my house that weekend with her friend and I still treated her like a queen and everything. Didn’t have relations but still shared the same bed and everything. I literally played it off like the Happy Mask Salesman from Majoras Mask, only deep down inside I truly, truly was hurting.
After the weekend was done she left and that was basically the start of her new relationship with this guy. What made it even worse is that she expected me to be her ‘best friend’ after all that happened. I went along with it for a good 2 months of suffering. After I couldn’t take it anymore I wrote her a goodbye letter basically saying if that’s how it was, well then kindly leave me out because I couldn’t stand the way she was playing me.
So I did that. I sent her the letter and went No Contact. That was my first ever really serious breakup and that happened towards the end of 2009. At that point we will not have talked for about a year and a half I would say. Although the breakup was hard, I was in my beginning years at school and plus was doing a Semester Abroad (Semester at Sea) so I was pretty busy and able to keep my mind off it for the most part so to speak.
I’m almost done I promise. About a year and a half goes by after I sent her that letter and this will be the point that I have gotten back from my trip abroad and back to ASU to continue taking my Junior Year credits. And man, even 7 years later I still am incapable of forgetting that very moment that happens next.
Susan and I still had some mutual friends so she would see my posts on her friend’s pages here and there. I very vividly remember what happened here. It was back in late 2010 but there were some Earthquake problems in Japan and that was one of the many countries that I visited, and one of Susan’s friends had posted a status saying, ‘My heart goes out to all the people of Japan.’ or something to that degree. I absolutely will not forget the exact words that came next, though. I decided to post on her status update and it all goes down from here:
I wrote, ‘To think I could have been caught in that Earthquake….’
She commented, ‘Could you possibly think of anyone else but yourself?!’
I replied, ‘You’re not REALLY gonna try to start pointless arguments with me on other people’s status updates, are you?’
That is literally what was said word for word after her friend posted that status update online. Susan had made an attempt to trigger my emotions after a year and a half of not even a word to each other and that literally was what came out of my mouth. What happens next will have changed my life forever.
After I said what I said to Susan, she literally said nothing. No response whatsoever. Until three weeks after said deed she decided to send me a message online:
Her message said, ‘Hey there. I just wanted to let you know that I’m really sorry if I hurt you back in the day. I’m sorry for whatever I did to you. I know it probably doesn’t matter anymore, but I just had to say it. I just can’t keep holding grudges anymore.’
I literally could not believe it. After a year and a half of suffering and expecting to never connect or see her again, she out of the blue apologizes to me just because of the way oI responded.
So…I guess what pretty much everyone else has been saying is the truth. The best revenge against someone who broke your heart is to simply just not care. Susan literally expected me to get angry and lash out at her, and that wouldn’t have made things better at all. It would have just made things worse between us. It just would have continued to be a never-ending stupid child’s game of ‘who can insult who’ the best, and it would have stayed that way.
As of today we don’t really talk as much as we used to, but I still consider her one of my good friends and I would do pretty much anything for her if she asked. I love that girl. Not in a romantic sense, but more just an ‘I appreciate her’ kind of sense I guess.
I’m actually just recently starting to get over a break up that happened over two years ago and that hit me way harder than it did Susan. So, I’m hoping with time I will truly be able to adopt this mentality that I applied to Susan and apply it to my most recent break up, because even though I’m not losing sleep over the fact that we’re not together anymore, it still ended pretty badly and sadly I haven’t truly, truly gotten to the point of ‘not caring about revenge’ yet, but man. I’m definitely getting there. One step, one day at a time is all we can do.”
I Came Out The Winner
“My husband left me for another woman four months after the birth of our son, by announcing that she was pregnant and he was going to live with her. We had been married for 10 years and he was the love of my life. I went through a very dark time, struggling to hold it together for the sake of our children. I was single for five years before meeting the man who is now my second husband.
I was extremely angry at my ex, but time slowly healed my wounds and I have no ill will against him now. We actually get along just fine. My ex and his new wife have a daughter who is exactly a year younger than our son, and the two kids are best friends. A few months ago his wife cheated on him and kicked him out.
At the time he left me, I had wished that he would have to feel what I was feeling so he would understand what he put me though, but now that it has happened it gives me no satisfaction at all. I sincerely want him to be happy, partly because it would be better for the kids!
Hopefully once your heart heals (it does take a long time!) you will be able to be at peace with your ex and move on with your life. It’s natural to feel angry and hurt when you’ve been betrayed by someone you love, but resentment hurts the person feeling it the most. ‘An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.'”